I know, this is Actually Infuriating, but … Also she didn’t just leave the now-dead kid in the car, she left two in there to die, but one survived. My guess: with brain damage. “Always Beautiful Medical Spa” FFS. Duck lips were totally worth it.
A baby died after his mother left him and his 2-year-old sibling inside a car while she was getting lip filler at a Bakersfield medical spa on a 101-degree day, authorities said.
It is estimated that Hernandez’s children were in the vehicle without air-conditioning for 90 minutes, wrote Det. Kyle McNabb, noting that the internal temperature of a car can rise to a blistering 143 degrees in just one hour of 100-degree weather.
Hernandez told police she found her baby foaming at the mouth and having an apparent seizure after emerging from her procedure at Always Beautiful Medical Spa, according to the police report. She frantically dialed 911, and both her children were transported to a hospital for treatment.
By the time her 1-year-old arrived at Adventist Health hospital, he wasn’t breathing, had no pulse, his lips were blue, and he had an internal body temperature of 107.2 degrees
Leaving your baby children alone in a running car … you parents out there … clue me in, but isn’t this the pinnacle of irresponsibility, even on a cool day? I thought “you don’t leave kids alone in a running car” was a widely-known and accepted principle, probably since cars were invented. Fold into that the fact that the kids would be in a hazardous environment (protected only by the integrity of the A/C system) as well as in an unprotected environment (car break ins maybe, kidnapping, crashes (even in a parking lot), battery fires …), why would anyone think it would be preferable to leave one’s kids in such a situation, when
No, no, much more convenient to leave them in SoCal sun in a parking lot in your car, for hours. And all this just to get your duck lips. FFS.
temperature inside the car is often higher than outside, like 30-40degrees.
What she did is reprehensible, irresponsible, disgusting. That said, letting your baby finish their nap in a climate controlled car used to be very common. You could park down your driveway, leave the car on, bring in your groceries (and even put them away), and then get the baby out, but now able to give him your full attention. It’s not acceptable to do that today. I have spent so many many hours in my driveway letting my baby finish their nap. Apparently if you remove the car seat from the base the angle is more dangerous for them to rest at, but unbuckling her means the end of a nap. I have wished it was safe to leave her in there alone every time and if I was a slightly less informed mother, I probably would. I would say if the car is climate controlled it’s probably the same amount or less dangerous than co sleeping and like half of parents do that (I do not). Parents make a lot of choices.
I wouldn’t leave my 1 year old alone for more than 5 minutes in the centre of a pillow fort in my house with the AC on (bad analogy, soft fluffy surfaces can be dangerous to small children if they can’t get their faces up reliably to get air).
There have been countless times when it’s a nice 18 degrees Celsius outside and I needed to run into the store to grab ONE thing. A total in and out time of maybe 3 minutes. I also live in a quiet and safe town. And yet each and every time, I took the effort to get my kid out of his car seat, carry him inside with me, get the stuff, and do the whole process of getting him into his seat, get him bucked in, get his toys set up again, etc.
I would throw myself off a cliff for being the worst parent imaginable if I left him in the car for those 3 minutes because I couldn’t make the effort.
This mother from the news didn’t deserve the child that died and neither of them deserved her as a mother, for all that term does any good here.
Not even at night? How does your family sleep?
We work in 20 minute microsleep shifts
It’s defo irresponsibility regardless, 2+ hours in a car no supervision is garbage parenting regardless, I’m just saying that it’s not like the parent intended the children was going to be in the heat, which in my opinion changes things drastically from someone making a poor choice with neglect or even an intent to kill, to someone who just made a really bad choice without the expectation anything bad will come out of it.
The parenting here was absolutely stupid either way, but one has a much worse intent and consequence than the other.
I don’t get why you’re trying to paint it as not neglect. This is not someone who made a really bad choice, this is someone who decided it’s okay for a 1 year old and a 2 year old to sit in a car for over 2 hours. Her leaving the AC on doesn’t change the fact that it was negligent behavior, deliberate negligent behavior. Even if the AC had worked the entire time the situation for the children would’ve still been insufferable.
I’m not. I’m just saying that one imstance is significantly worse than the other. Just because I’m saying that doesn’t mean I agree with either instance, But out of the two available instances, this one is the preferred instance over intentionally putting a child in a vehicle for two and a half hours with no AC.
You literally said this changes from neglect to “a really bad choice”.
As for the other argument. If someone leaves their children home alone for a week do you think that action becomes significantly less worse if they stock up the fridge before leaving the children to fend for themselves? I would argue it doesn’t matter because you’re still neglecting them. The same way I don’t think the AC matters because in both cases those children were still strapped into the car for over 2 hours without any supervision.
please don’t pancake vs waffle me, especially considering that I have clarified to you what I meant by that post. Just because I explicitly state neglect in one, doesn’t mean the other isn’t neglectful. Neglect still falls under bad choices, however I would not call intent to kill just a “bad choice” which is was the point of the comparator in the first place. Not debate over if its neglect or not.
As for your analogy, I don’t really think that is a safe analogy to apply to this situation. A child left without food and water for a week will always lead to death, a child being left alone for a few hours in a climate controlled area will not. It’s a false analogy.
instead I will respond with a fairer analogy. “Would it be considered neglect to leave a child unsupervised for 3 hours but leave food in the fridge” which I would still say is yes, but it’s weighed significantly less then someone who decided to go on vacation for a week leaving food in the fridge as was your first analogy. Or someone who didn’t leave food at all, which is more compatible to the first glace at this page.