The words “Beverly Hillbillies” come to mind…
If others aren’t familiar with the TV show “Beverly Hillbillies”, it was a show in the 60s and in syndication when I was growing up. It consists of of a family from the Ozarks who move to Beverly Hills. They continue to live life like they always have, but now in CA with rich neighbors. When the neighbors see this, they look down at them.
I remember there were neighbors who tried to get them to leave the neighborhood or try to trick them in some way. But the family would always outsmart them while maintaining the moral high ground.
Why attend if you cannot be yourself? Why is the daughter embarrassed of who she is?
Honestly one of the things I’m grateful for, is having had both rich family and very poor family. The thing about actually rich people is they don’t care, in my experience they are pretty gracious as long as you are relaxed. Dress to the absolute minimum of what is required (I’ve gotten away with $20 dresses and good shoes and nobody batted an eye.)
If you can keep the clothes, get stuff you like, negotiate for a spa day, get your hair done, keep the style very, very simple and outshine them all! You can do it!
Or you could decline the invite, if you aren’t interested in a fancy dress ball.
Truly rich people just want you to be interesting. The nouveau riche, or wanna bes, are obsessed with crap like designer labels and cookie cutter luxury brands.
They want you to be normal and nice like anyone else
Personally I dont get wanting to impress a bunch of capitalists and their families
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You’re not an accessory. What a twat.
I understand this 100%. My father imagined himself to be a character and the life of the party. He would dress like a biker no matter the affair. He had been a systems analyst on big iron.
On his hip?
looool, no.
Man I would show up wearing muddy cowboy boots and a sleeveless shirt and refuse change clothes
Isnt that why theyd even have to buy you clothes and teach you how to act, in that case if I were them id feel better about saying that becuase you would prove my point
Honest to god I would probably, politely, decline the invitation.
The shopping/dressing part, imho, is whatever, maybe even cute.
Kids being wary of parental embarrassment is as old as time.That last message though is really the big one: how to behave and what to say.
Disclaimer: I know nothing about your daughter, the following isn’t meant as advice.
On one hand, she wants you to be part of this.
On the other hand, it seems like covering up who you are is (mostly?) to cover up who poeple there might think she is?
It’s like she’s worried that people there will think she doesn’t belong if it is made evident that you don’t. I think she’s worried about not fitting in herself and you bringing attention to that fact.
Asking you to play a role is kinda wack… but then it may be that she’s been thinking all this time that she has to be playing the part too. Idk if cute or sad or both. Impostor syndrome in a relationship maybe, idk.Honey, just hire actors at this point.
Me? I’d go all in.
Full-on wizard staff and pipe, or the old monopoly monocle look.
If I’m about to dress up and play a role, I might as well play as someone from the wait staff or go all out medieval bourgeois and convince people I’m a noble from a far off land that no one there has heard about, like Earl of Canada.Sorry we’re late, customs was being picky about sword lengths and I had to leave another trebuchet to one of them meddlesome varlets.
A den of savages.
We couldn’t find the stables, my dear, if you’d be so kind as to have one of your footmen help the stable boy.Urgh, I’m not sure I would want to attend. If it was a wedding I would swallow my pride but for a party it’s probably not worth it.
I’m with you. Just say that you have a thing in the French Riviera or some shit and won’t be back in time. Here’s a $35 Walmart gift card.
Bonus points if you scribble in a “le Walmart” with a sharpie
I would most definitely not go.
I think this definitely reads way worse than it is. I grew up in small town Iowa, and most adults from my town would not handle upscale and fancy well. It would be like if I went to Buckingham and was expected to know proper etiquette.
This definitely has asshole phrasing, and probably is just a shitty person, but I can empathize with the core idea.
I grew up poor in a fairly cosmopolitan city, and I still felt like I was going to crawl out of my own skin the first time I went to a slightly dressy business event. I have no fucks to give anymore, but back in the day, this would have probably been a fairly reasonable disaster preparedness plan if I had to be invited to something formal with a lot of social expectations that I was not familiar with.
It’s walking into a different culture, and while the hosts should be understanding, it can be reasonable to prepare someone who isn’t familiar with the culture before sending them in. Still, no need to be a dick about it.
This was my impression. What to say may mean just proper etiquette, not lying about going to Aspen. I mean, the asshole wants to invite you to a party, buy you nice new clothes, and tell you how to blend in; it doesn’t sound like much of an asshole phrased that way.
invite you to a party
Okay, fine, but I don’t like most parties.
buy you nice new clothes
That I’ll wear once and donate.
and tell you how to blend in
No thanks, I like me.
That’s funny
Anyway you know what you have to do (embarrass her)
Time to break out the straw hat and bib overalls.
Maybe even blacken a few teeth.
“Dressing us up and trying to make us act like someone other than ourselvds won’t keep us from embarassing you. I’m disappointed you never learned that.”
I’m showing up in flip flops and making scene
Why bother flying there to just cause problems. Just send them back a text that says you wont support her lying to his family and if your embarrassed of who we are then it’s best we don’t attend.
It’s a free vacation?
A free “vacation” where you have to play dress up and pretend to be someone you’re not? No thanks.
Accept the travel arrangements, then do your own thing instead of hanging out with the stiffs.
That’s why we say fuck that wear flip flops and cause problems, either the rich people are fun and it’s fine or they deserve it.
I’ll be the one dressed up as, acting like, and quoting Rodney Dangerfield from caddyshack.
